“Far from avoiding people from the gay community, as many Christians are tempted to do, you should make a point of getting close to people who are different from you. Spend time with them doing things you both like, as I did in playing video games with Louis. Ask questions to get to know a new friend better. Share your own story. Find some way to be of help. Go to movies, go out to eat, just hang out with people who are different from you. Maybe you could even offer to pray with a person from the LGBT community and begin to dialogue about his or her life. God will use you to demonstrate his love to someone else. And by the way, this goes both ways. You’ll get something back too, as the other person gets to know you in relationship. In fact, I believe we have so much to learn from people from all walks of life, including the LGBT community. Each person carries with him or her vast experiences, joys, hurts, learning, and more. Obviously there will be issues that you will not agree on, but at least you will have a new friend. In short, you’ve got to get your hands dirty by embracing the lives of others. Not that people in the LGBT community are actually dirty, any more than the rest of us are. That’s just not true. What I’m saying is, if you want to show God’s grace to people in this or any community, you’ve got to get to work at forming relationships with people, one by one. At one point, someone cared enough about you to get his or her hands dirty in the messiness of your life. Maybe it’s time for you to do the same for others.” from “Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction” by Caleb Kaltenbach